Need advice on Bullying please

[lilalykinz]

thanks

[lalacr8zy]

Oh sweetheart, first let me start off by saying you are beautiful!!!!!!!!! You have a wonderful passion for something, and you should be very proud! You don't know these bullies, and seriously, if they are 25 y/o and teasing you about you being "too old or childish" to be playing with dolls at 13 y/o, my question is Why are they even watching your video in the first place?

I certainly don't ever watch anything that I'm not interested in, so apparently these girls have some interest in Lala's if they are taking the time to watch your videos and are just being very RUDE!!!!!! I am 36 years old, I love these little dolls. Now, I'm collecting them for my 4 & 1 1/2 year old daughters, but I still sit down on the floor and play with them with my girls.

It's hard to ignore mean words, but you have to understand, most bullies are bullies for a reason. They are not getting love from their parents, maybe they love lala's and their parents told them no so they are jealous!!!!! Don't listen to them!!!! Enjoy what you are collecting and block all that negativity out!!!!!!!!

[bay]

Don't ever think about killing yourself, EVER. You have your whole life set in front of you! We are all here to support you. Block the people bothering you. Disable your comments. Everyone gets people who just like to get on your nerves. Don't respond to them. They really don't deserve all you have to say ;D I was bullied in person a lot in middle school and high school. Pm if you need anymore help. ;D

[lalalover12]

oh girl i am a thirteen y/o and i know the feeling! its hard but you need to learn just to ignore it!!! this person is just hatefull and as they say "haters gonna hate!!!" the person needs to stop watching your videos! i think u can report things to you tube so that might help. its just a hard thing to deal with so thats my best advice. sorry if thats not helpful but i understand your feelings

[Cupcake]

Feb 11, 2012 16:39:41 GMT -5 @bay said:

Don't ever think about killing yourself, EVER.

What Lilo said!

It sounds like this girl is out to hurt feelings. What a horrible use of her time.

You on the other hand are sharing happiness over bright, whimsical things that bring fun and cheer. I'd say you're acting much more mature than she is. I don't know how to post on Youtube, but can you block comments? Then you could enjoy sharing Lala videos without worry about her rude comments.

There are tons of people who love Lalas. ;D Mini Prairie makes me smile when I see her - and I love that about them.

[inkiemama]

Haters gonna hate, there will alway be people around wanting to hurt you for no real reason. A 25 year old picking on 13 year old is crazy, she must have some huge issues if thats what her hobby is.

I was picked on for similar reasons when I was a younger, in the end you have to find what gives you a joy in you heart and stick with it. There will always be someone who will have a problem with it. Be strong and know there are tonnes of older girls out there who love Lala's and dolls.

PM me a link to your videos I'd love to watch them.

[kswteach]

Don't take anything someone says about your interests and hobbies personally. People can be so ignorant and heartless.

I'm almost 50 and love all sorts of dolls. If you search on-line, there are thousands of adults that collect dolls, including Lalas. Just be happy and enjoy your collection.

Don't think of suicide. It is not a good option. Life gets better. Things that seem upsetting to you at age 13 will eventually not seem so problematic later. I can remember when a school assignment seemed like the end of the world. Just tell yourself that in a week, or a month, or whatever, the problem won't be that bad.

Take care. Write to us on the group anytime! We're friends here!

[rockrabbit]

Heya, you know the renowned author C.S. Lewis once said that calling things childish is in and of itself being childish. In childhood and adolescence it might be okay, in moderation, because it's a sign of wanting to mature. But as an adult, calling things childish, and being afraid of childishness, shows that you haven't really matured. It's a sign of a lack of development. Either young or old, if you enjoy doing what you do, don't worry about what others think or may say about it. Keep doing what you like. They're they ones still stuck as little kids, afraid to do what you're doing.

And that girl, don't let her words get the better of you. She's being a hypocrite; a pot calling the kettle black.

If you're curious to see the exact words of C.S. Lewis, here's a link: www.goodreads.com/quotes/show/84171

[zt]

To be honest, there isn't really anything you can do aside from disabling comments. What you need to do is learn to take things in stride. If you are going to spend time online, you are always going to run into situations like this. I'd say at least 75% of people are meaner online. Just in the last week, I've been called several off-color names (which aren't appropriate for this forum) for having my own opinions. I'm currently being referred to as an idiot because of a story I told in which I forgot an expensive laptop at a fast-food place. "Idiot" is probably one of the nicest things I have been called on the internet. But there's no reason for it to bother me. People online don't know me or my life story, nor are they relevant to my life in any significant way. To me, they're like a bunch of game characters; as far as I know, you all could be chatbots!

Another thing to keep in mind is that no matter who you are, people are going to hate you. It doesn't matter if you're a hero, a scientist, Jesus, or even Jackie Chan...some people just flat-out won't like you. You don't even have to do anything wrong. On the flip side, no matter who you are, there are also people who love you. Even serial killers and Julia Roberts have people who love them. And you have people who love you. So, what you need to do is stop putting stock into what is said by people who dislike you and only care about those who love you. I mean, just think about it: why do you care what that girl thinks? Why should it bother you if she thinks you're a baby? For all you know, she could be mentally ill. She might not even really be a girl.

Also, I think you need to get out more. If online comments are affecting you this much, it's a clear sign that you are depressed and that you are probably spending too much time on the computer. Both of these can be alleviated (at least to a degree) by getting out of the house. Walk to the park, go shopping, meet some people. This is important for someone who is being homeschooled, especially at your age. These days, most young teens experience depression. I know firsthand how hard it can be. I went through a crazy range of emotions and attempted suicide two or three times. Granted, I was going through some things, but half of what I went through doesn't compare to what I go through now as an adult. But now I don't have hormones taking over and mucking up everything and I manage to stay pretty happy (and believe me, there's plenty to be sad about!).

And now I'm starting to ramble... My main point is that you have to not let unimportant things bother you, which you already know. Nobody can really tell you how to move on; it's just one of those things you eventually work out for yourself. But I can say that it helps to focus on what makes you happy and remember that pain is eventually forgotten (otherwise women wouldn't be able to have more than one child). I can almost guarantee that things that bother you now won't bother you as you get older because priorities change and we learn so much from our experiences. I remember a lot of things that made me sad as a teenager and now when I look back, I can't believe they ever affected me.

Anyway, sorry for rambling on for so long. I doubt I have helped much, but hopefully something I've said will stick. At the very least, take comfort in knowing that most of us are grown men and women. So, if a young girl like you is babyish for collecting dolls, just imagine what that makes the rest of us!


(Also, if you're having serious suicidal thoughts, you should talk to someone ASAP. You never know what you might miss out on in the future. If I had killed myself when I wanted to, I never would've had my wife and son. Can you imagine throwing it all away when just around the corner, I had this really awesome life waiting for me?)

[lilalykinz]

Hey thanks everyone for the kind words and support i know there will always be haters and people who dont like me even for no reason but its hard to deal with it. This girl used to be nice to me and then mean saying the reason i dont show my face is cuz my tumor makes me ugly and stuff and then she was kinda nice to me like she left me alone but now shes just being mean about the Lala dolls. I do try to ignore it and I deleted all her comments and ALL my videos i have set up for approval only because I dont care if like my online friends comment.

Its hard dealing with interent drama and everything else that i have going on with my life in real life and no one knows really anything about me but its not like i go posting about my whole life to the world in my videos. i know some of my videos are stupid and pointless but some people like them so i guess thats the only thing that matters.

Her being mean to me isnt the reason I want to kill myself i know that its a bad thing and ive already tried to more then once and been in the hospital for it a few times and am on a few medications for different reasons everything just seems and feels so hard and like nothings ever going to change or get better so any mean comment from anyone just makes things worse for me which sounds stupid. i just feel like i cant take any of this.

but thank you all agian for taking the time to read this and reply to me it really does mean a lot to me! and we can share our love of something cute and awesome!

[★Bama★]

lilalykinz, PLEASE go to a adult you trust and tell them how you are feeling!

It's not healthy for you to feel that way. We can type up all sorts of responses to try to help you feel better, but you need a real person to listen and understand.

PLEASE PROMISE that you will talk to someone as soon as possible!

There could be many reasons behind why you are feeling like this. Maybe the medications you are taking are working against one another or are not exactly what you need.

And please keep in touch so we know you are okay. Hugs to you!

[mancuso]

As a 22 year old Lala-lover, trust me....you are not too old. You never will be too old. Keep doing what you love, and remember that people like her are empty inside and need to pick on others in order to try to build themselves up. Also, to echo what Bama said, you most definitely should find someone to talk things out with. Being 13 doesn't simply mean that you are young or childish. Age-ism works both ways, and young teenagers are often disregarded as being melodramatic and overly emotional. Your feelings are real, and you should most definitely find someone who can help you and who will take you seriously. I know how it can feel to have your emotions dismissed as being childish, and it's hard to relate when your friends are so much older than you and have possibly forgotten what it felt like to be thirteen. I hope that you gain the confidence to look the other way when this girl decides she isn't feeling too good about herself and starts bullying you.

[lalalover12]

ok im gonna confesse something to u guys i have tryed to kill my self before and i blacked out no one knows ecept u and some freinds. it was the worst move of my life. period. dont turn to that please!! i will post massage u later butdont do that. its there in your mind forever.

[summersmama]

If you are having thoughts of suicide tell your parents, a teacher you trust, or your doctor immediately! Your life is too precious and important and whatever you are going through now is temporary. You can and will feel better.

[medinata3hil]

First, know that God made you wonderful and you are fine the way you are!!!!!!! Your life is precious and worth living!!!! Don't ever let anyone make you feel inferior because you are not! I learned something very important that i want to share with you. This world is filled with mean people who make themselves feel better by putting others down. The truth is they themselves are just very sad people and we should Pray for god to help them. The other thing I have learned is that people can only make you feel a certain way if you let them. So know that you are awesome and wonderfully made and I pray god will give you peace and comfort and a strength that makes you as bold as a lion but with the humility of a baby lamb. Know that all these wonderful people on this site care soooo much about you!!!! Isn't that wonderful that we don't see each other To judge. we just share a common care for something. Lalas are wonderful and you are just fine. As for the bully, well there is nothing you can do other than realize that what she said is not important. You are a normal wonderful person who god loves and all of us her care about and we don't think you need to change one bit!! I hope you can see the beauty inside yourself and how there is nothing baby-ish, or silly about liking what you like. I would bet a lot of us are way older than you and don't care that others may think of us as silly because we like these dolls. And I think you should never put yourself down or feel silly!!! Remember you truly are wonderfully made and always loved and no matter what life throws your way, no matter how hard things get, god has a purpose for you that is awesome and that makes life worth living!!! We love u!!

[lalapinkgreen]

aww please don't ever think that, consider me one of your friends